Dating someone online
Find a way to explain, as nicely as you can, that you’re not feeling the need to go forward, then say goodbye.
“Just say that as much as you enjoyed getting to know her, you realized you two weren’t quite the match you’d hoped,” Davidson advises.
“Sometimes we are our own worst enemies in that when our hopes and fantasies clash with reality, we tend to over-focus on the fantasy and make excuses for or rationalize the reality,” she explains. I’d advise the same degree of self-awareness that I’d suggest to women in order to avoid the mess that can ensue as a result.” If your Spidey Sense tells you something’s amiss—say she’s 10 years older than she led you to believe, swapped out her pic for someone else’s on her profile, or invites you to her sister’s wedding for your next date—there’s nothing wrong with cutting your losses, as long as you do it [pagebreak] According to Davidson, the end of a meet-up date can be awkward, especially if you aren’t sure if you want to see her again.
“One way to handle it is to say something like, ‘I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you.
“You needn’t go so far as to spring for dinner, but a drink in a nice environment, or even lunch, will make a far better impression than coffee at the local Starbucks,” she says.
“By treating her with respect, picking up the check, and in general being cool, you’ll win points.
When we meet a potential love interest in person, we’re taught to look for certain red flags—like being rude to the waiter, calling incessantly or not at all, or claiming that his favorite book is The Da Vinci Code.
Why don’t we both think about how we feel about another date.
I’ll email (or text, or IM) you later.’ Then be sure you do it,” she says.
Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.
It's always your best bet to take your Internet conversation into the real world as soon as possible before you establish a virtual rapport that can become awkward and stilted when it has to translate into face-to-face.